First off, let’s agree on the fact that it is okay for men to wear gray dress shoes. I realize that it is not acceptable in all settings. I think I’ve only seen another guy wear them once or twice in the wild. But just because something is not done often, does not mean that it is not okay. And in fact, the absence of gray dress shoes is likely the most legitimate and substantial argument against them. So like just about anything, you have to be comfortable wearing gray shoes and you have to know whether it is appropriate to do so in whatever workplace or social setting your are in.
There are other arguments against gray dress shoes. An argument saying that gray dress shoes lack formality is one that lacks substance. Gray dress shoes, at least those in darker shades are actually quite formal. Not as formal as black or dark brown dress shoes but certainly more formal than light brown dress shoes. Largely because of their dark color and that gray is thought to be more formal than brown. Furthermore, keep in mind that even the least formal of dress shoes in gray will still be more formal than the most formal casual shoe (sneaker, driving loafer etc).
And of course there will be those who say that gray shoes cannot be mated with most colors of suits and trousers. Which again, is a false argument. Refer to my chart on What Color Shoes To Wear With What Color Pants for a bit more on that. But in fact, gray shoes can go with most colors of pants and suit. I have included photos of two of the more common and easy to do pairings; gray shoes with a gray suit and a navy suit.
Yes, I am sure there are other arguments against gray dress shoes (the same arguments could also be used for navy dress shoes, which I am also a fan of), but I think I have addressed the three most common ones. To my eyes the shoes go quite well with the gray and navy suits. And to my knowledge, my wearing of gray shoes has not offended the eyes of others. At least, that is to say, they have received many positive comments and no negative ones.
As much as I am a fan of gray dress shoes, I wouldn’t advise making an investment in gray dress shoes until you have a solid rotation of black, brown and burgundy shoes. So perhaps these would be the 6th man in your shoe wardrobe. As I said before, it all comes down to whether or not you can make the shoes work for you and whether or not you are comfortable wearing them. If you are not, then I suppose that’s that. But if it is something you could see yourself doing then gray shoes could be a great way to grow your personal style and wardrobe.
Thank you for this posting – we had the same Issue (Socks vs Shoes) a time ago at our German Blog – but shoe lovers can´t get enough of that information so i recommended this article to my german blog readers as well: http://www.shoepassion.de/blog/linktipps-des-monats-januar
good post, thanks! are the velasca shoes goodyear welted, or sewn in any way, or are they glued? I just ordered a pair and now I realized I am not sure… if they’re glued I am afraid they’re going back…
They are Blake stitched, so the sole are sewn to the upper.
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When wearing grey shoes, do you to match the belt too? Grey belts are hard to find :/ would it look bad to wear a brown belt instead? Let’s say you’re wearing grey shoes, blue chinos and the brown belt with a white shirt. It wouldn’t work?
It could definitely work, I think it would work best with shades of brown and gray that are more contrasting.
I am wearing a light gray tux with pink for my bow tie and pocket square for my wedding… Someone recommended a brown shoe, but I wasn’t sure if that would work, I was leaning towards a gray shoe, but didn’t know which style or shade… Do you have any recommendations?
I have two!!! Pairs of suede gray loafers they aren’t light neither dark one pair is CK and the Other Kenneth Cole.
They are nice, celan, elegant, not too dressy not too casual
What you suggest to combine them?
I was thinking navy linen pants and white shirt
I need suggestions. Socks?? Color??
As a casual to business casual shoe I’m a big fan of plaintoe oxfords and rotate usually between gray, black, light and dark brown and tan suede. Good article.
Thanks Uncle Winker!
I have been eyeing a pair of gray wholecuts by Thomas Bird. This article gives me ideas of how I could wear them. I already have a solid lineup of black, brown, and burgundy dress shoes, so I think I will go for the gray. Thanks?
Grey can be a great 4th or 5th shoe color! Have fun with them.
That should have been “Thanks!” rather than with a question mark.